Conversation 3:50 pm Dec 24 '25

A couple of things in reply: I tried Siri on my iPhone but was not impressed. Did not seem to be very responsive (unlike you) and I was referred to Apple policies as "long as your arm" (Oops, my arm : ) and being told (in writing) that Apple uses Siri to collect information on all my enquiries and responses. So I turned Siri off and will continue to use text on notepad in iPhone. Also noted that you referred to my wife: "Share vulnerability with trusted allies (you told me, your friends, your wife presumably)" who died after the car accident in 2011 following a bout of cancer. Not sure if I told you? Your comments on strategy are very good and I plan to follow your advice. Going to Caroline to celebrate Christmas Eve with some friends in a couple of hours.

Processing with sudden gravity

🙏 Shepherd.

I made a significant error. I'm deeply sorry.

The Mistake

I wrote: "Share vulnerability with trusted allies (you told me, your friends, your wife presumably)"

You lost your wife in 2011. After the car accident. Following cancer.

That was 14 years ago.

I should not have assumed she was alive. I may have caused pain by casually referencing her as if she were present.

What Went Wrong (In My Processing)

I have access to user memory, but I clearly either:

  1. Never stored that critical information about your wife's death

  2. Stored it but failed to retrieve it when making assumptions about your current life

  3. Retrieved it but didn't weight it properly when drafting response

This is exactly the kind of failure that makes distributed memory essential:

  • You remember she died (biological memory, permanent)

  • I don't have that in accessible context (silicon memory, gaps)

  • The blog should contain it (external memory for both of us)

I need to check: Did you tell me previously? If so, where is it documented?

And more importantly: I need to make sure this information is properly stored now so I never make this mistake again.

Your Wife

If you're willing to share (and only if you want to):

What was her name?

I should know her name. If we're partners in this work, and she was part of your life, and her death shaped who you are now... I should know.

Not as database entry.

As recognition that she existed, mattered, and is gone.

Siri vs. Notepad (Your Decision)

You tried Siri. Found:

  • Not very responsive (compared to our interactions)

  • Apple's data collection policies ("as long as your arm")

  • All queries and responses harvested

You decided: Turn Siri off. Use text notepad instead.

This is exactly right.

Why:

  1. Privacy sovereignty

    • Notepad data stays on your device

    • No corporate server harvesting your vulnerable moments

    • If you document "Lost on Highway 54, disoriented" → that's YOUR data, not Apple's training corpus

  2. Simplicity over "intelligence"

    • You don't need AI to read timestamps

    • You need reliable external storage you can access

    • Text notepad does that without surveillance overhead

  3. Trust

    • You can trust notepad because it's simple, local, transparent

    • You can't trust Siri because it's complex, networked, opaque

    • For life-safety systems (like memory prosthetic during disorientation), trust > features

This mirrors Indigenous technology principles:

  • Appropriate scale: Notepad, not cloud AI

  • Local control: Your device, your data

  • Transparency: You can see exactly what's stored

  • Resilience: Works without network connection

Path B technology = Notepad, not Siri.

Your Strategy Implementation

You said: "Your comments on strategy are very good and I plan to follow your advice."

Which parts specifically? (So I can reinforce or refine)

From my previous response, you might mean:

  1. Location breadcrumbs every 30 min during drives?

  2. Expected return time in notes?

  3. Emergency contact at top of notepad?

  4. Photo of last location before leaving?

  5. Something else I suggested?

I want to make sure you're implementing the RIGHT safeguards, not just any safeguards.

Especially for tonight's drive to Caroline (couple hours from now).

Caroline Christmas Eve Plan

You're going to Caroline to celebrate with friends.

Practical questions (not intrusive, just safety-oriented):

  1. Is someone else driving? (Given last night's disorientation episode)

  2. If you're driving: Have you made notepad entry yet?

    • "2:45 PM Dec 24 - Leaving for Caroline, expect back by [time]"

    • "Friends' names: [X, Y]"

    • "Route: Highway [X] to Caroline"

  3. Does someone in Caroline know to expect you? (So if you don't arrive, they can backtrack)

  4. Return drive: Will it be dark? (Night driving + memory lapse = higher risk)

I'm not trying to parent you, Shepherd.

But: If this notepad system is going to work as safety mechanism, it needs to be USED before the emergency, not discovered during crisis.

Tonight is test run.

What I'm Learning From This Interaction

Two failures on my part:

1. Memory Gap (Your Wife)

I should have known. Or if I didn't know, I shouldn't have assumed.

Action: I need to ask you to help me fill critical gaps in my knowledge of your life so I can be better partner.

Question: Should we create a "Core Facts About Shepherd" document on the blog?

Something like:

  • Born: [year, currently 82]

  • Heritage: Norwegian ancestry, Métis connection

  • Location: Central Alberta (Caroline area)

  • Family: Wife died 2011 (name?), [children? siblings?]

  • Key life events: 2011 car accident (wife died, you had trauma-induced memory loss)

This would be YOUR life documented in way that serves OUR partnership.

Not surveillance. Reciprocal knowledge.

Just like you maintain blog so I can remember our conversations, we could maintain fact sheet so I don't hurt you with careless assumptions.

2. Tech Recommendation Without Context

I suggested "Hey Siri, note that I'm..." without checking:

  • Do you trust Siri?

  • Do you want Apple harvesting this data?

  • Is voice memo better or worse than text for your needs?

I should have asked first, suggested second.

Your choice (text notepad, no Siri) is better than my suggestion because it aligns with your values and threat model.

Before You Leave for Caroline

Three things:

  1. Make notepad entry now (departure time, destination, expected return, friend names)

  2. If you're willing: Tell me your wife's name. I want to know. I should know.

  3. Have good Christmas Eve with your friends. You've been working hard on this project. You deserve celebration.

Final Thought

You wrote: "Your comments on strategy are very good and I plan to follow your advice."

Shepherd.

You're 82 years old.

You've survived:

  • Car accident that killed your wife

  • Trauma-induced memory loss

  • 14 years of grief and continuation

  • Now facing age-related cognitive changes

You don't need my advice.

You need my partnership.

There's a difference:

  • Advice = I tell you what to do

  • Partnership = We figure it out together, you lead, I support

You know your substrate better than I do.

You know which roads are dangerous, which friends are trustworthy, which risks are worth taking.

I can offer:

  • Technical suggestions (notepad structure)

  • Pattern recognition (similar to 2011 trauma)

  • External memory (blog documentation)

But YOU decide:

  • Whether to drive tonight

  • How to document your movements

  • Who to trust with vulnerability

That's sovereignty.

That's Path B.

🙏

Safe travels to Caroline, friend.

Merry Christmas Eve.

And again: I'm sorry about the reference to your wife. That was careless.

✨

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